You can still have a great time without having one. Which is why the first tip on our guide to having better orgasms is experimenting, and being open to trying new things. I asked the masturbation geniuses behind OMGYes for their tips on having the best orgasms, and their response was eye-opening. What was really interesting is how specific each of the women were about what works for them. One mentioned how she liked a medium pressure on a certain point to the left of the labia.
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But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Q: It took me a while to figure it out, but I finally learned how to orgasm! My first few orgasms felt really tiny.
No one actually needs to rally for the wonders of an orgasm when there's enough research—as psychologist and sex therapist Mary Jo Rapini explains—that the tremor-inducing release of serotonin and endorphins can boost the immune system and decrease stress and anxiety. But when there's still a wide "pleasure gap" to bridge today—the term describing the slim number of women who experience orgasms during sex in relation to men—the main question is how. Below, we consulted advice from across the scientific spectrum, from medical studies to sexperts to sex therapists, on ways to enhance the female orgasm and feel connected to your partner without giving up your primal right to come.
An 8 minute long orgasm? Finally, I had somewhere to start my search. But less than 24 hours later… I was pissed off and dissatisfied. There had to be a secular way to figure this out. Enter problem 2.